STIs Personal Experience

First off I would just like to say that I had a very hard time finding someone who has a personal experience with STIs. That makes me very happy. Secondly, so far the STI post has gotten the most amount of traffic of and post thus far. It had a surge of over 600% readership, trust me the readership before was modest so we aren't some break out hit but it is up by a lot. This makes me happy also. Not only because people are enjoying the site but also because people are wanting the information and they now have it. So to all the new readers I say welcome to the conversation. To the older readers, welcome back. Enjoy this story it is written by me from notes I took during a interview with a shy contributor. Let's call him Kevin Federline.

She was so friggin hot, dude and we didn't have a condom. We where in the moment and since I was like 16 I wasn't even considering catching something. At that time I was most worried about pregnancy and since it was anal I just said screw it. I knew she was very vocal and open about her sexual experiences, but it never occurred to me that she would have something. Even from looking at her I had no idea what was going to happen. 

I woke up a few days later and went to pee and it burned so bad. I also noticed I had a clear discharge from my penis. At first was I didn't know what was going on and thought it would just go away on its own. After a bit it didn't so I went to my dad and told him what was going on. He took me to the doctor immediately. I'm not going to lie I was "scared, but I made my mistakes and had to take care of them."

My doctor was understanding and answered all of my questions. While the doctor and his resident were nice, the testing sucked. Initially the resident was in the exam room with me, he took a q-tip swap thing and shoved into my urethra, twisted and repeated. He repeated because they would have to do a separate scan for other bacterial things I could have gotten from her anus. When the doctor came in he had repeat the swapping to make sure no medical mistake where made. To say the least, it hurt like hell. The doctor said that I probably had a bacterial infection, I was given an antibiotic and went home to wait on my results.

2 weeks later I got my result confirming that I did have a bacterial STI, namely Chlamydia. I went back to the doctor where he gave me 2 pills of a stronger more specialized antibiotic. I took those pills as I was told and they knocked out the big C. I have been fine ever since and I have been more than a little diligent in making sure to wrap it up every time. My doc suggested I register with the CDC but I opted not to. I did tell the one partner I had between contracting it and getting it handled.

This whole thing could have been very bad, luckily I had a a father that I could talk to and be open and honest with. Let me just add one last thing "In this society we are so concerned with feelings our feelings others feelings. But essentially no matter how awkward, just do what you need to. Go see a medical professional talk to your parent someone that can give you the help you need. Even a simple STI like mine can lead to sterility of left untreated."

 Just so you know, a condom could have helped to prevent Kevin's situation. If you want to the best shot at avoiding this you should use a condom every time with any penetrative sex, including oral. Also make sure to visually inspect your partners genitals. It may seem weird but while you are using your hand you can just take a look and see what's going on down there. If you notice something out of sorts, raise the question. Make a decision with your best judgment.

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Site

So as tends to happen when you're a creative type, I am currently unsatisfied with the site. I feel like the design is lacking, so I am changing it. I have decided that I am going to do a complete redesign. That is coming soon, keep your eyes peeled.

Risky Business

It is a unpleasant reality of sex today that STIs are a risk.  It's a calculated risk we all take to enjoy the many...many pleasures and benefits of sex. Below is handy chart for all your STI risk needs.  This image is a modified version of the one originally created by our friends at the Sex is Fun Podcast. If you haven't had a listen visit them here. You are going to want to click on the image for a bigger view.  For further reference this will be perpetually available to the right in the "pages" section. Before you ask, yes you can catch all of this on your first time.

The jist for prevention is use a latex glove for your hands, a condom for the penis and a latex barrier for your mouth and other orifices.  If you notice a change in your body that is not normal: bumps, warts, open sores, white spots in the throat, swelling of the lymph nodes, fever, sore throat, rashes, discharge from any place it shouldn't, swelling, itching or burning sensations GO SEE A DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY!

Curables (Bacterial)

Gonorrhea [More info]:

• Symptoms - Inflammation of the urethra (urethritis) and a burning sensation in men, inflammation of the cervix (cervicitis) in women are the most common symptoms.
• Treatment - Penicillin, for most strains. There is one rare strain with no cure.

Chlamydia (#1 Bacterial STI) [More info]:

• Symptoms - Urethritis, cervicitis. Discharge from the penis, vagina and/or rectum. Can be in the genitals and in the eye (trachoma). 1 in 4 men are asymptomatic (no outward symptoms). Most women show no symptoms. In pregnant women it can case still births and premature deliveries.
• Treatment - Antibiotics tetracycline, azithromycin, or erythromycin.

Syphylis [More info]:

• Symptoms: Can imitate many different diseases. Systematic, it travels through the blood and reproduces. Comes in three stages, 1. Primary Syphyilis - Hard painless sores soon after contact; 2. Seconday Syphylis - A rash that doesn't itch, it is highly contagious at this stage; 3. Tertiary - Too late to treat, you would have bone deterioration. Children  born at this stage can have insephilitis (water on the brain), no noses, eye bleeding, deafness and respiratory problems.
• Treatment: At the first two stages treatment is penicillin. There is no cure at stage three.

Non-Curable/Chronic (Viral)

Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) [More info]: Herpes like to hang out in the ganglion cells and can travel though your nervous system. Outbreaks last from 1-6 weeks. Shingles, and chicken pox are both herpes. Both simplex 1 & 2 can be transmitted to the mouth and the genitals.

• HSV1 - This shows up as the common cold sore. It is not normally transmitted during sex but it can be. 
• HSV2 - Shows up as genital herpes. It is highly contagious and is mostly contagious before symptoms in the prodomal stage.
• Treatment - Treated by anti-viral medication, there are several prescription antiviral medications for controlling herpes simplex outbreaks, such as acyclovir (Zovirax®), valacyclovir (Valtrex®), famciclovir (Famvir®), and penciclovir (Denavir®).

Human Papaloma Virus (HPV) [More info]: HPV has 95 strains, the most common are 6, 11, 16, and 18. 90% of women are infected. It is the #1 STI period.

• Symptoms: Males show few or no symptoms and it usually shows up as warts that go unnoticed or are in the urethra. In females the warts are usually in the vagina and if they are not caught they will go unnoticed without regular screening.
• Treatment: There is no treatment for HPV itself. Vaccines like Gardasil help prevent the most common strains. There are treatments for the diseases HPV causes. Visible genital warts can be removed by the patient him or herself with medications & cervical cancer is most treatable when it is diagnosed and treated early. But women who get routine Pap tests and follow up as needed can identify problems before cancer develops. Prevention is always better than treatment. 

Hepatitis [More info]: Hepatitis is an inflammation of the liver. B, C, and D are all sexually transmitted and can be transmitted through sweat, spit and other fluids.

• Symptoms: Many people with hepatitis B or C do not have symptoms when first infected and can still develop liver failure later. Other symptoms include abdominal pain or distention, breast development in males, dark urine and pale or clay-colored stools, fatigue, general itching, jaundice, loss of appetite, low-grade fever, nausea and vomiting, weight loss.
• Treatment:  There is no cure for hepatitis it self, there are vaccines for prevention.

Human Immunodeficiency Virus/Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (HIV/AIDS) [More info]: HIV is a lentivirus that works by infecting white blood cells and turning them into HIV producing factories. It is spread through blood, semen, vaginal fluids, pre-ejaculate and breast milk. Shows up in 4 stages.

• Symptoms: 1. Acute HIV Infection - Shows up as Flu or mononucleosis like symptoms. 2-4 weeks after contact, it is very contagious at this point.  2. Asymptomatic HIV - This is a period of time that varies in length from person to person. The immune system degrades slowly but shows no symptoms. 3. PGL (Persistent Generalized Lymphadenopathy) - Lymphadenopathy is a term meaning "disease of the lymph nodes" and this is basically a swelling of the lymph nodes. 4. Full Blown AIDS - A severe suppression of the immune system caused by HIV. 
• Treatment - There is no cure for HIV. The treatment for HIV consists of antiretroviral therapy to suppress the replication of the HIV virus in the body. A combination of several antiretroviral agents, termed highly active antiretroviral therapy (HAART), has been highly effective in reducing the number of HIV particles in the blood stream, as measured by the viral load (how much virus is found in the blood). A lot of patients have personal health and well being plans to help support their immune systems.

This Is Why We Need Sexual Education In School.

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Friday Advice: Don't Kick Puppies

Dear J

I have had a series of bad relationships in my past and because of that I am often on edge and looking for my boyfriends to mess up so I can break up with them. I am now in really good relationship, with a really good man and I was wondering what I can do to help curb by self destruction. He has an ex-wife and two children, which doesn't bother me except he still lives with them. I know him and his wife are divorced and after what she did I don't blame, I just cannot shake the overwhelming desire to make say he's cheating so I can leave. Please help me. I really don't want to push him away. 

Anxiously,

L

L,
You do not know how often I hear this story and each time it breaks my heart. There are a lot of bad people out there who will hurt and misuse you. You must be able to dust off your old relationships, learn your lessons, and try your best not accumulate baggage. I know that I have a lot of personal issues with relationships and dating, when I am in relationships I have to work hard at curbing them. The way I see it is that I would not stop wanting  to pet a puppies because one bit me. I would be more careful, and diligent about not having it happen again. I would not kick the puppy so he gets mad and bites me. Stop kicking puppies, you're not Michael Vick. You say he is a good man, he treats you well, return the favor.

As far as the ex-wife situation, cohabitation happens, especially in this economic climate. I think that your boyfriend is just trying to be good to his children and keep them in a stable household, which is hard when you live separately.  I would think that him being caring, loving father would make him way more attractive.  Just learn to deal with it, and if you can't then just recognize that you may need to leave him and leave on good terms. Go to him explain your position calmly and rationally, see if that does not inspire him to soothe your fears. I think it will do you good, communication in these situations is key. You both have to talk AND listen. Try this and see how it works out for you, I guarantee things will get better if you do. Best of luck.

If you have any relationship quandaries send them to ltasexinfo@gmail.com

Intimacy.

You should know by now that I love my dictionary, so don't be surprised if I pull Webster's out on you periodically.

According to Google:

Intimacy: noun 1. Familiarity: close or warm friendship; "the absence of fences created a mysterious intimacy in which no one knew privacy" 2. the third studio album by British indie rock band Bloc Party. 

My definition of intimacy is as followed: A delicate mental state of being between two people. That is facilitated by continual comfort, trust, and understanding, which leads to openness, sharing, and robust communications both verbal and non-verbal of their feelings, hopes, dreams, experiences, and fears within a atmosphere of commitment, acceptance and tenderness. Without realizing it we often have very close and very intimate relationships with people. Often we find that intimacy forms without conscious thought.

I am able to tell my best friend anything, with trust and understanding, that what I say is safe. We can, have, and will continue to cry together, laugh together, pass out drunkenly, accommodate one another, be an open willing ear, be and absorbent shoulder, ask "what is this weird bump on my butt", and do it without fear of judgment. It feels good. 

I would say 100% of humans search for intimacy in their relationships, more than sex. Humans have four basic emotional needs: acknowledgment, attention, acceptance, and affection. We often use sex as way of fulfilling these needs. In general those who do have hard sustaining the intimacy. 

There are many barriers to intimacy, but us I would say the biggest are:

• Fear
• Aggressiveness
• Substance Abuse
• Mistrust
• Electronic Devices
• Physical Distance
• Stress
• Sex

All of these things take time away from the relationship that is being built. With misuse they all can cause emotional distance, which eventually will leave the relationship to be based on sex alone alone and that is if each partner's sexual needs are still being met within the relationship.

The question becomes, how do you facilitate the growth and maintenance of intimacy? The best place to start is with honesty and comfort. It's really simple, be honest all the time but lie when necessary. Yes, I said lie when necessary. Lying can be used for the forces of good. If done correctly, you will allow people to trust you more because they can recognize when you are lying. The only things that you should never lie about are your feelings, desires, and needs. Honesty and openness about those needs breeds trust and comfort. 


Now you have intimacy, but understand that since intimacy is a mental and emotional state that is always in flux, it is important to continue these behaviors to maintain the intimacy that you have come to enjoy. When intimacy goes bad it can lead to resentment, hatred, slashed tires, hacked Facebook accounts, and...




Nobody wants that, but let's be honest there are less rhythmically awesome ways to go. if I had to die this would be in the top ten.

For more information on intimacy visit the links below.

Romance Class: Intimacy 



Wikipedia: Intimacy

LIVESTRONG: Intimacy

Defining Sex.

I will admit that “What is SEX?” is very lofty question that has more answers than M. Night Shamalan has bad movies and annoyed movie goers. It took me many hours of deep introspective thought and insightful conversations with friends to come up with the following definition:

“Sex is an act between one or more persons that has several purposes, of which include reproduction and stress relief, and can be practiced in numerous and ever expanding ways.”

I think that this definition is the best clinical definition of SEX that can be made. It is clear, concise, and all inclusive. However, it is clinical and removes the personal expression and intimacy that, for a large number of people, is absolutely essential.  So then what defines that SEX? Who can define that SEX? That answer is one of the greatest things about SEX; it is one undeniable truth.

We define SEX.

Each and every one of us has the ability to decide what sex means to us. Your definition could cycle every 13 minutes like clockwork and you would never be wrong. Sex can be anything from masturbation to an orgy to watching the neighbor that never closes the blinds do the crossword puzzle. Each and every way that you define sex for yourself is the correct definition. So that leads us to a new question, what is your definition of sex.

For me SEX is a dirty, slutty, intimate, awesome mesh of emotions, bodily fluids, ideas, heat, thrust, throbs, heartbeats, thoughts, grunts, caresses, looks, sways, hates, awkward moments, butterflies, spanks, issues, lusts, loves, mistakes, fears and the best idea that anyone has ever come up with. SEX is a messy, sloppy, embarrassing, ridiculous, scary, exciting journey that everyone should experience with themselves, one other person, twelve other people, a little person, an amputee and a priest. SEX is the most fun you can have without taking your clothes off, but it’s better if you do. SEX IS FUN. SEX is a Mighty Morphin’ Power play. SEX is a verb fest, and an experience that if you respect it and have not fear, can take you to places you never thought possible.

But this is just me, here is what you guys said:

“I'd like to say that I know what sex means to me, other than satisfaction of a primal urge, but I can't say that at all. But then again I could. It just depends on my mood… All I can truly tell you about sex is that I’d like to have some. And that’s all I have to say, for now.” Kevin, 22 (Full Text)

"Sex is an stress relieving sport that I'm addicted to and, I need to have in order to have a fully functional life. Sex with the right person could be moments of your life that you will remember for an eternity, but if not the right person I still need to bust a nut. I believe it takes 60 percent physical and 40 percent mental in order to reach a certain climax but, those numbers could change depending on attraction."  Kira, 22 (Full Text)

A Little About Me

Now that I think about it, I realize that we jumped into this very quickly and as it happens from time to time I'm waking up with you in my bed and realizing that you don't even know my name... awkward. So let's just break the ice.

Hi, I'm Jerome. I'm a 22 year old college student studying psychology with a focus on human sexuality. I like painting, drawing, photography, baking, sculpture, creative writing, music, cock, tits, ass, balls, crochet and long walks on the beach.

There that's better.


But seriously I am open to any question you may ask. Feel free to ask them any time. As also happens from time to time, I have other people here that will be contributing to the blog. We'll introduce them as they appear. If you would like to contribute leave a comment or email ltasexinfo@gmail.com. You can send in your stories, questions, comments and suggestions.

Um, so I gotta go to work now so if you would kindly GTFO... thanks, I'll call you.

The First Order Of Buisness

This whole journey centers around sex and relationships and we have a lot to learn. The first thing we need to do is answer the question, "What is SEX?". This is a very important question because SEX is something different to every single person. Over the next few days we will work on this very question. But I want to know what you think. Answer the question of what SEX is in the sidebar and we will see what you guys come up with. If my many definitions do not fit your definition leave a comment below, or send us a Tweet @LTASex. I look forward to see what we all come up with! Until next time I wish you all great sex, great loves, and great days.

JR