Is it wrong to choose to avoid any kind of opportunity to see someone since I have so much trouble with school? I would also like to have a job first and pay my own rent. Lastly I also find it really awkward to have people I'm close to know about my personal life, or anyone really.
Sincerely
Mike K.
Mike,
Let me start by saying you are never wrong when you make decision that only affects yourself. You have the right to do or not do anything you damn well please. That being said,you are wrong. Well, you're wrong in the since of avoiding ALL romantic opportunities until you are living on your own.
If you had not said "all" I would be 100% on your side. You have got to interact with men/women, what ever your pref, in a romantic way or else you won't learn. You're writing me so I am going to assume you're college age, and college is where you should be making your mistakes and perfecting your seduction and hunting tactics. Once we get to a age where we are financially stable and self sufficient most mates will not be open to helping you catch up. Would you want to date the emotional equivalent of Sarah Palin's Down Syndrome baby?
Regarding your openness issue, it is ok to have secrets to yourself. However you should take note to the fact that sharing becomes less awkward the more you do it. I suggest you try taking a leap of faith. Hell an easy way to do it would be to simply send your confidant this link, they'll understand.
It seems to me, more than anything, you have some intimacy problems that are connected to your lack of dating and you lack of openness and I wonder if you have many close relationships at all. Regardless (I'm about to get my Oprah on) you really should be opening up and letting people into your world. It is important for all of us to have close relationships that we look to as a study guide for how a good romantic relationship should work. After all a girlfriend/boyfriend is nothing more than a best friend that you can have sex with.
J
