Intimacy.

You should know by now that I love my dictionary, so don't be surprised if I pull Webster's out on you periodically.

According to Google:

Intimacy: noun 1. Familiarity: close or warm friendship; "the absence of fences created a mysterious intimacy in which no one knew privacy" 2. the third studio album by British indie rock band Bloc Party. 

My definition of intimacy is as followed: A delicate mental state of being between two people. That is facilitated by continual comfort, trust, and understanding, which leads to openness, sharing, and robust communications both verbal and non-verbal of their feelings, hopes, dreams, experiences, and fears within a atmosphere of commitment, acceptance and tenderness. Without realizing it we often have very close and very intimate relationships with people. Often we find that intimacy forms without conscious thought.

I am able to tell my best friend anything, with trust and understanding, that what I say is safe. We can, have, and will continue to cry together, laugh together, pass out drunkenly, accommodate one another, be an open willing ear, be and absorbent shoulder, ask "what is this weird bump on my butt", and do it without fear of judgment. It feels good. 

I would say 100% of humans search for intimacy in their relationships, more than sex. Humans have four basic emotional needs: acknowledgment, attention, acceptance, and affection. We often use sex as way of fulfilling these needs. In general those who do have hard sustaining the intimacy. 

There are many barriers to intimacy, but us I would say the biggest are:

• Fear
• Aggressiveness
• Substance Abuse
• Mistrust
• Electronic Devices
• Physical Distance
• Stress
• Sex

All of these things take time away from the relationship that is being built. With misuse they all can cause emotional distance, which eventually will leave the relationship to be based on sex alone alone and that is if each partner's sexual needs are still being met within the relationship.

The question becomes, how do you facilitate the growth and maintenance of intimacy? The best place to start is with honesty and comfort. It's really simple, be honest all the time but lie when necessary. Yes, I said lie when necessary. Lying can be used for the forces of good. If done correctly, you will allow people to trust you more because they can recognize when you are lying. The only things that you should never lie about are your feelings, desires, and needs. Honesty and openness about those needs breeds trust and comfort. 


Now you have intimacy, but understand that since intimacy is a mental and emotional state that is always in flux, it is important to continue these behaviors to maintain the intimacy that you have come to enjoy. When intimacy goes bad it can lead to resentment, hatred, slashed tires, hacked Facebook accounts, and...




Nobody wants that, but let's be honest there are less rhythmically awesome ways to go. if I had to die this would be in the top ten.

For more information on intimacy visit the links below.

Romance Class: Intimacy 



Wikipedia: Intimacy

LIVESTRONG: Intimacy

Defining Sex.

I will admit that “What is SEX?” is very lofty question that has more answers than M. Night Shamalan has bad movies and annoyed movie goers. It took me many hours of deep introspective thought and insightful conversations with friends to come up with the following definition:

“Sex is an act between one or more persons that has several purposes, of which include reproduction and stress relief, and can be practiced in numerous and ever expanding ways.”

I think that this definition is the best clinical definition of SEX that can be made. It is clear, concise, and all inclusive. However, it is clinical and removes the personal expression and intimacy that, for a large number of people, is absolutely essential.  So then what defines that SEX? Who can define that SEX? That answer is one of the greatest things about SEX; it is one undeniable truth.

We define SEX.

Each and every one of us has the ability to decide what sex means to us. Your definition could cycle every 13 minutes like clockwork and you would never be wrong. Sex can be anything from masturbation to an orgy to watching the neighbor that never closes the blinds do the crossword puzzle. Each and every way that you define sex for yourself is the correct definition. So that leads us to a new question, what is your definition of sex.

For me SEX is a dirty, slutty, intimate, awesome mesh of emotions, bodily fluids, ideas, heat, thrust, throbs, heartbeats, thoughts, grunts, caresses, looks, sways, hates, awkward moments, butterflies, spanks, issues, lusts, loves, mistakes, fears and the best idea that anyone has ever come up with. SEX is a messy, sloppy, embarrassing, ridiculous, scary, exciting journey that everyone should experience with themselves, one other person, twelve other people, a little person, an amputee and a priest. SEX is the most fun you can have without taking your clothes off, but it’s better if you do. SEX IS FUN. SEX is a Mighty Morphin’ Power play. SEX is a verb fest, and an experience that if you respect it and have not fear, can take you to places you never thought possible.

But this is just me, here is what you guys said:

“I'd like to say that I know what sex means to me, other than satisfaction of a primal urge, but I can't say that at all. But then again I could. It just depends on my mood… All I can truly tell you about sex is that I’d like to have some. And that’s all I have to say, for now.” Kevin, 22 (Full Text)

"Sex is an stress relieving sport that I'm addicted to and, I need to have in order to have a fully functional life. Sex with the right person could be moments of your life that you will remember for an eternity, but if not the right person I still need to bust a nut. I believe it takes 60 percent physical and 40 percent mental in order to reach a certain climax but, those numbers could change depending on attraction."  Kira, 22 (Full Text)

A Little About Me

Now that I think about it, I realize that we jumped into this very quickly and as it happens from time to time I'm waking up with you in my bed and realizing that you don't even know my name... awkward. So let's just break the ice.

Hi, I'm Jerome. I'm a 22 year old college student studying psychology with a focus on human sexuality. I like painting, drawing, photography, baking, sculpture, creative writing, music, cock, tits, ass, balls, crochet and long walks on the beach.

There that's better.


But seriously I am open to any question you may ask. Feel free to ask them any time. As also happens from time to time, I have other people here that will be contributing to the blog. We'll introduce them as they appear. If you would like to contribute leave a comment or email ltasexinfo@gmail.com. You can send in your stories, questions, comments and suggestions.

Um, so I gotta go to work now so if you would kindly GTFO... thanks, I'll call you.

The First Order Of Buisness

This whole journey centers around sex and relationships and we have a lot to learn. The first thing we need to do is answer the question, "What is SEX?". This is a very important question because SEX is something different to every single person. Over the next few days we will work on this very question. But I want to know what you think. Answer the question of what SEX is in the sidebar and we will see what you guys come up with. If my many definitions do not fit your definition leave a comment below, or send us a Tweet @LTASex. I look forward to see what we all come up with! Until next time I wish you all great sex, great loves, and great days.

JR