I got together a crack team of guys who worked as my panel. We sat down together in the man cave and we had a chat. I posed the question, "Do you think the y chromosome is degrading?" Most of the experts initially replied with, "what?" I further explained that the question simply sought an answer to if men felt that their position in the world is being eliminated or diminished by the increasing social equality of women. Their faces scrunched into origami and braille that read deep of confusion and surprise.
Eventually one of them opened their mouth and began a hour long conversation in which we covered many topics. However the answer to original question one that was not actually with words. It was answered with what my panel did not say. They did not once mentioned they felt encroached upon by womens increasing equality. So what did they say?
They said that sexual harassment cases and gender offense sensitivity were becoming both annoying and ridiculous. A court case against Burger King over referring to their company standard red cleaning cloth as a red rag, and a case against a mall for a Santa Claus saying "Ho ho ho" where both referred to. They all agreed that they sometimes feel uncomfortable in social situation with women, because they fear offending the opposite sex. I found that there was a small bit of resentment in the forced political correctness. This wasn't solely about gender it extrapolated out to other areas of social deviation.
So what does this say about our generation? I would venture to asses that for our generation gender is not as much of a social divider as it once was. Men are not considering their status as man based upon simple social interactions with women. They are probably looking to more academic or intragender competitive activities for that reinforcement. In terms of romantic interactions with women my experts unanimously agreed that they were able to separate their feelings and behaviors from their social interactions.
In summary the war is over, everybody won, we can all go home now. I am not so quick to believe that it is though. Everyone of my geniuses are all college educated, ages 18-26, varying races and social backgrounds. However I have a sneaking suspicion they might not be representative of the general public. So guys what do you have to say? Leave a comment below, email me @LTASEXinfo@gmail.com or on Twitter @ltasex
well yes, some people are hyper-sensitive about sexual harassment issues as a whole, it still stands that we as a whole have a long way to go. when i am told to "let it go" when disparaging comments are made towards my gender/sex/sexual orientation, what do you do? women fought for equality, and in many ways have won it, but at the same time it left us being told to 'man up' cos we fought for this. i may want to be considered 'one of the guys', but when it comes to those guys making comments about 'that bitch last night that was so fucking hot' but she's 'such a whore, be careful'....am i not allowed to speak up?
ReplyDeletei want the men and women i socialize with to feel free to say what they want, but i also want to be free to object when they cross a line. but it seems sometimes that if i do speak up that im just an 'oversensitive feminazi'
You know this is just what I was referring to, the conundrum that we are now in. It is very difficult for men to feel comfortable around women if they have the fear that they are being judged. You can not go to India and judge their culture based on what you know or feel. You must be able to look at their world with fresh eyes. You just have to be able to really figure out what and when to express your feeling in a way that is not offensive.
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