Sex by BIC

Dildos, Butt Plugs and Fleshlights oh my!

Walking into a adult toy store for the first time can be very intimidating. Even the best, most open, and welcoming toy store can be overwhelming. I have already shown you how to pick a good store now I am going to show you how to pick a good toy for you. 

There are several things you need to consider before you put down the cash for your new best friend. Answer these 5 questions and come back tomorrow for my sex toy flow chart.

1. What part of your body are you trying to stimulate?  Figure out where on your body you are going to be using your toy, ie anal, vaginal, oral, internal, or external.

2. How do you want that part to be stimulated? What feels good to you? Do you like thrusting, vibration, pressure, fullness etc.

3. Who will you be using this toy with? Are you going to be using this alone, with a partner, many partners?

4. What's your living situation? Keep in mind that you will not only need to use this toy but be able to clean it and store it. You may not want a 24in double dong to have to put away if your in a dorm situation. You may not want a loud, plug in vibrator if you use the shower as your masturbatory hang out.

5. What is your experience level? If this is your first sex toy you do NOT want to jump into the deep end, trust me. You may be able to take a fist in your vagina but the materials used for sex toys are very different from flesh. They have different level of pliability and give. No two materials are alike.

Now that you've answered those questions take your answers and apply them to these flow charts. There is one for anal, vaginal, and penile toys.

 

Sex Toys 102: Materials

Sex Toys 101

Friday Advice: Love Lockdown

Is it wrong to choose to avoid any kind of opportunity to see someone since I have so much trouble with school? I would also like to have a job first and pay my own rent. Lastly I also find it really awkward to have people I'm close to know about my personal life, or anyone really.

Sincerely

Mike K.

Mike,

Let me start by saying you are never wrong when you make decision that only affects yourself. You have the right to do or not do anything you damn well please. That being said,you are wrong. Well, you're wrong in the since of avoiding ALL romantic opportunities until you are living on your own.  

If you had not said "all" I would be 100% on your side. You have got to interact with men/women, what ever your pref, in a romantic way or else you won't learn. You're writing me so I am going to assume you're college age, and college is where you should be making your mistakes and perfecting your seduction and hunting tactics. Once we get to a age where we are financially stable and self sufficient most mates will not be open to helping you catch up. Would you want to date the emotional equivalent of Sarah Palin's Down Syndrome baby? 

Regarding your openness issue, it is ok to have secrets to yourself. However you should take note to the fact that sharing becomes less awkward the more you do it. I suggest you try taking a leap of faith. Hell an easy way to do it would be to simply send your confidant this link, they'll understand.

It seems to me, more than anything, you have some intimacy problems that are connected to your lack of dating and you lack of openness and I wonder if you have many close relationships at all. Regardless (I'm about to get my Oprah on) you really should be opening up and letting people into your world. It is important for all of us to have close relationships that we look to as a study guide for how a good romantic relationship should work. After all a girlfriend/boyfriend is nothing more than a best friend that you can have sex with.

J

From Miley To Paris

Apparently you guys are are a bunch of exhibitionists! Good stuff!  Well since you've asked here you go. As a follow up to the sexting post, here is a survivor's guide to video recording your sex life. 

So you want to tape yourself having sex? Well you're not alone. Millions of Americans just like you pull out their cell phones or or their Flip video camera and call action of their intimate moments. Then "OH NO! They took my LapTop."

What do you do? Well at this point there is nothing you can do. Which is why you should be doing things before.

1. Get Lo Jack! For an annual $40 fee you get peace of mind. LoJack can track your laptop or desktop, remotely delete your data, and contact law enforcement. Yeah... I don't have it but now I'm sold!
2. Lock Your Private Data. Both Windows Vista, 7, XP and MacOS all have security features to password protect your private data.
3. Keep you video off your portable devices. It is so easy for someone to pocket your new Kodak Zi8 HD that your Girlfriend got you for your special birthday sex exploits. It is also easy for them to then take that and upload it to XTube without you ever even knowing.

Of course these tips are for those who don't want to have their private moments distributed. If you do want your moments distributed throw DVDs out the window for all I care. 

Oh one little anecdote, new video recoding devices are in HD. This means that every nook and cranny will be shown in clear crisp 1080p. 

1. Make sure the lights are on. 
2. Use dark bedding if you are fairer skinned and lighter bedding if you are darker skinned. 
3. Make sure you are vocal, but only if it's real.
4. Get a tripod. No one, not even you wants to see a Cloverfield style porno.
5. Please don't rotate the camera. TVs, computer screens, and camcorders are made a certain way for a reason!

Use these tips and your own discretion and you can navigate the digital waters with ease.

Got any tips or tricks for aspiring pornographers? Leave a comment below send an email to ltasexinfo@gmail.com or hit us on twitter @ltasex

Site Updates

So thus far the site is doing well. I have a few steady readers but not a lot. For those few I would just like to say many thanks to you. Thanks for sticking in with me while I work this all out. Running a professional level site is way more work than any other web stuff I have ever done. So here is what is going on I have decided to go to a once weekly posting scheme(usually on a Monday). I have had way to many emails saying that they are missing posts because they are coming too fast, and I am inclined to agree. In April alone there have been 16 posts in 21 days, which is a lot! So that's what's good with that.

Also I will be doing product reviews all summer, so let me know if you see a sex toy want me to review. Lastly I am running out of advice queries so don't forget to send in your relationship/sex advice questions to ltasexinfo@gmail.com so I can feature them on the site. Oh and one last thing, Facebook sucks! They disabed my account and won't say why. So if you want to interact with me become a fan at our new fan page. Link Below.

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Lets-Talk-About-Sex/367652350817?v=wall&viewas=728608968

Ok zat es all me zexy bishes. Oh I lied before this is the last thing. The Monday posts won't go into affect for a little bit. The next 2 weeks still have multi day posts. Also for the future I'm going to experimenting with different styles so I will be needing your feedback people.

Laters
Jason

Famous Sexting Mishaps

Don't Be Like Miley Cyrus

We've all done it. Our significant other texts us something a little dirty and we reply in same. It escalates a little bit, and before you know it you're sending a pic of yourself in a various state of undress. Nothing wrong with that. However the problems arrive at the break up, or the lost phone, or friend nosing in the phone. You're now exposed and left in the open.

You will hear me say that I am against sexting, or expressing your sexuality privately with your partner(s). However there somethings you can do protect yourself in these situations.

1. Obscure or cut off your face. I am sure your partner knows what you look like well enough. Your naughty bits should be enough.
2. Make sure that any identifying marks such as tattoos or scars are not in the shot.
3. Manually delete or lock the photos in the recipients phone. 
4. If you are using a smart phone search for a security app, like TigerText for iPhone.
5. Every cell phone has a security feature that requires a security code for operation.
6. Have a code word to use with your partner(s). You can use it to make sure you are sending the pictures to the right person.

Use these tips along with your own personal discretion and you will be navigate this new technological and sexy world with ease.

Tell us your sexting stories, leave a comment below, email ltasexinfo@gmail.com or on twitter @ltasex

Friday Advice: Miss Cleo Say They Are Full Of Shite

"Some girls say that they can tell a guy has a large penis by: the way he walks, shoe size.ect is a load of bull or do some ppl actually have these magical abilities?"

Rock Lee

Your girlfriends are full of it.  I'm gonna go ahead and give a check list.

• Hands - Did you read Super Head's book? Shaq is supposed to be way below average.
• Feet - I dated a size 17, he had 1.7in
• Car - Some guys just like fast cars.
• Height - See first bullet.
• Income - Nope the poorest guys can have the biggest dicks.
• Ethnicity - See fourth bullet.

I think you get the idea. You may want to ask your friends what they are really attracted to. It may be that your friends, like everyone else, find confident guys more attractive. Confidence is linked to penis size. So it is more than likely your friends are going home with confident guys. However, your friends perception of their partners penis' could be skewed by their level of attraction to the guy.

Most Perfect Penises,

JR

Facebook

So Facebook disable the LTASex page. I'm working on getting it back up. I will update you when something changes.

What is "Sexy"?

I know what you're thinking. You're thinking, "What the hell kind of question is that?", right? So did everyone else I have asked.

Wait, let me go back to the beginning of this whole discussion. After the Porn posts I started receiving emails and tweets talking about how I missed this or that. Somehow in the conversation we got on the topic of good porn and someone said, "as long as the people are sexy I don't care who is in it." To that I replied "what is sexy, to you?" He took a pause and said, "a fat ass." We continued down this road back and forth, sharing what we think is sexy. We never came to a consensus.

So I want to know, "What is sexy?" He're is how I'm going to find out. I am going to conduct a survey. I am going to go straight up scientific method on this. When the survey is finished I will provide the results exclusively here. Look for those in the coming weeks.

In the mean time, I want your ideas on what sexy is. Tell me in the comments below,, email ltasexinfo@gmail.com or on twitter @ltasex

Below is a small gallery of images that I find sexy... just for your enjoyment.

You Know What Grinds My Gears

 

Yes you America. Well, not such much the whole of America, but rather the part of America that makes television. The television that refuses to allow any couple in a non-hetero relationship. I am in love with Spartacus: Blood and Sand, a new show on Starz. From the beginning they have had 2 openly gay characters in a loving healthy relationship. This was something I thought was a absolute triumph. Six episodes into the first season they have killed one of the men leaving the other one as a slave. I know that this is just a television show, but it is a issue that I find absolutely infuriating.

Why is it that no can homosexual couple last on TV? For that matter, why can't a non-vanilla relationship last? Why is it that every image we have of a non-hetero normative relationship is one of toil and trouble? I consume a lot of media. I play video games, watch tv and movies, read blogs, books, and magazines. I also watch web video such as YouTube, listen to podcasts and I am involved in tons of social media. From all of that, I can not name one single example of a fully function relationship between two people involved in a "different" relationship.

It is very distressing as a gay identifying man to never see any examples of people like me in relationship, living together, happy, and healthy. How can we, as a large group of disenfranchised people, ever hope to integrate into society if all anyone ever sees of us are lispy, fabulous, cosmo sipping, dysfunctional, deeply flawed, gender bending, or dead characters.

Do not mistake that previous sentence for any type of hate. I have had my self hatred, and I have come out the other side better for it, though I still struggle with it sometimes. I recognize that those stereotypes exist for a reason. I can point to many people that fit at least one of those stereotypes. The problem is that they are stereotypes. Stereotypes water down the human condition to an accent, or in this case a lisp. They also serve to perpetuate the behaviors they emulate.

Maybe this can all be chocked  up to being just an aspect of bad writing, or uncreative writers. Maybe these writers have written themselves into shallow character hell. In which their viewers can not handle the concept that a TV character might be as multifaceted as they themselves are.

One thing I want to note before I end this post. There is an episode of Family Guy, in which Peter and Lois are putting on their leather BDSM gear while having a discussion about their son, Chris', grades. I love this scene and think that if that sort of thing would happen on TV more often I would have greater faith in our media.

How do you feel about this issue? Do you have an example? I want to know what you think. Leave a comment below, send an email to ltasexinfo@gmail.com or on twitter @ltasex.

Friday Advice: Susan B. Anthony Would Approve

"Is it anti-feminist to want your guy to take control and be a little "rough " with you?"

-Jive Pineapple

I can answer this in one word. NO. Being able to know what you want and going after it is one of the corner stones of feminism. You will encounter some feminists who say that "allowing a man to enter your sacred womb is an abomination." I am just gonna say it now, I think she they might be a lesbian, or hippie. Anywhoo, you have every right to tell him to rough you up. Hell you could ask him to give you a donkey punch if that's what you want. (Reader Alert: Donkey punching is dangerous and can lead to serious brain damage or death, proceed with caution and at your own risk.) All you need to do is go to him explain what you him to do and he should do it for you. Rough sex is very common especially with our generation therefore it should be a easy request for him to satisfy.

Best Orgasms
JR

Porn Selections

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Problems With Porn

The problems with porn are numerous, despite what this week's post may seem to say. My biggest problem with porn is the mechanical nature of it all. It's always some skinny, hairless, faked tittied, primped and pluck white woman/man getting impaled by some uber muscular, hairless, stoic, big dicked, fuck machine. That is not sex. No sex is like mainstream porn. I wouldn't have a problem with type of porn being popular if people really had an option.

It takes a lot of work to find good porn, trust me. In prep for this weeks post I poured through hundreds of hours of porn to find you guys some funny and sexy scenes. There is no directory for porn, no billboard charts, no Porn Entertainment Weekly Magazine so porn production companies can get away with literally producing the same films, and re-releasing the same scenes over and over again.

For the sake of openness I will say that my favorite porn, right now, is usually what Treasure Island Media is making. I do often prefer more raunchy porn, to live out whatever fantasies I am not okay with doing in real life.

What's wrong with watching the Barbie dolls having sex? People look to media to be a role model for the things they should be doing, whether they know it or not. When people see these things that think maybe I should be having sex like that, but they can't no one can. When this happens people get discouraged and grow a bad disposition toward sex. This is never a good thing.

We need to make sure  that our expectations are actually possible. Recognizing that porn, like every other media, is in the business of making money the easiest and most reliable way possible. Universally, that would mean finding a formula that works and repeating it.

Therefore making these cookie cutter videos, in cookie cutter rooms, with cookie cutter models would be a good idea, right? Wrong. Let us not forget a group of companies... The Big 3. GM, Ford, Daimler Chrysler all did what the porn industry is doing now. They rested on their laurels, and are now in financial trouble. Companies are folding left and right, print magazines are burning to the ground. Unless they do the right things the industry will be brought to it's knees, and I needs mah internet pornz!

End Rant.

What do you think of all this craziness? Let me know in the comments below.

Pr0n 2: Leagacy

So the biggest question I received after the last porn post was, "Where do I get good and/or free porn?" Well Let me answer your question the best way I know how.  Steal it. Let me explain.

Every industry eventually gives in to will of the people.  Music, movies and print media all have moved online and are making steps to be the flush out their new business models. Porn, on the other hand, has not. Porn has become a formulaic, stagnant, waxed barbie doll. It has lost a lot of the charm it once had. So until the porn industry get off it ass and fixes itself I will be not paying for anything they make. I encourage you to join me. One thing I should add is there are plenty of people put there doing good work, and if you come across one of them please pay them. Buy and buy until you have carpal tunnel. We need to support the good ones.

Web sites like xTube, Porn Tube, and YouPorn all serve up free amateur porn free of charge. If you prefer better production values like I do and do not want to wade through the garbage, visit a torrent site. 

• The Pirate Bay
• Demonoid
• Gaytorrent
• Extratorrent
• Porn Evo
• Porn Bay

All of these will have tons and tons of porn. Gaytorrent and Demonoid are both private trackers and will require an invite or open registration. The rest of these sites are free and open to anybody who wants them. Gaytorrent, as the name suggests is strictly for gay male porn. If you already like a pay site but can't buy it or whatever you could always use the pay sites to find porn you want to download from the torrent sites.

I understand that there are people who would be against using torrents.  So, when it comes to paid sites, only would use TLA. They cater to gay men and women as well as straight men and women. 

Straight women are a totally different breed when it comes to porn. They are more likely to enjoy erotica, and a more sensous porn experience overall (Try this too). (Click on the underlined words to visit their sites.)

I know that I have excluded porn featuring transgendered persons. This is a factor of that I have no idea of what they may look for in their pornography. It is one of my many wants in life to have a friend that is transgendered. I have so many questions.  If you are transgendered and have any insight or not and would just like to add your thoughts or suggestions leave a comment below, send me a email to ltasexinfo@gmail.com, or get me on Twitter @ltasex.

Porn: Who's Watching

Pr0n

The internet was made for it. Your dad probably hid it in the garage. You are less than 5 clicks away from your own personal stash. I'm talking about the wonderful invention of PORN!

 

I love porn. You love porn. We all love porn.  Wait, you say you've never watched porn before? Stop to lying to yourself. You've stared at the David Beckham for Calvin Klein underwear ads. You've gawked at the sopping wet shirtless underage (at the time) piece muscular man meat Taylor Lautner in New Moon.  Hell you've walked in on your brother sneaking to watch Girls Gone Wild. You've seen porn and it is okay if you didn't like it. However you shouldn't be ashamed if you did.

Porn is a outrageously large business with annual worldwide sales of $97.06 BILLION.  This level of revenue is more than the annual revenue of Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, Netflix and EarthLink combined. Our age range (18-34) makes up 60% of all internet porn and adult searches. The searches are evenly distributed between males and females.

In light of these stats can we just agree to lay off of porn. Porn get's a bad enough wrap in the media. Everyday it seems a new celebrity is labeled as a sex or porn addict. Mel B, Bill Clinton, Michael Douglas, Magic Johnson, Tiger Woods, David Duchovny, Jack Nicholson, Britney Spears, Charlie Sheen, Amy Winehouse, Robbie Williams, George Michael, Eric Benet, Colin Farrel, Tommy Lee, Billy Bob Thornton, Tom Sizemore, and Jesse James have all been labeled as a sick porn addict.  Most of these people where just unfortunate victims of unscrupulous sex partners or sneaky people who kept the semen stained dress (gross).

It is unfair to assume that porn is such a terrible activity. Porn has never been linked to causing sexual crimes. Porn has never been linked to causing addiction. Porn has never been linked to causing sexual deviance. Porn has however been linked to stress release. Porn has been shown to have only a temporary effect on the brain but it is no more than that of any other sexually suggestive image.

Do not take the former paragraph to mean that there is no risk involved with watching porn. There are people who will go overboard with anything. People have played WoW to death. People have died of water intoxication. People have ballooned to 1400lbs. It's all about responsibility of self.

Next post we will go into the world of porn. I will put up a few clips, everyone will have a good wank and life will move on. I want to know what you guys think about porn, love it, hate it, watching it now. Leave a comment below, send me a email: ltasexinfo@gmail.com, and on Twitter @ltasex

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